I made baby steps today. I am trying so hard to not go down the same path of neurotic perfectionism. I know it doesn't work. If I have to try a million different ways then that is what I have to do.
I read somewhere that having AD/HDers schedule their day down to every 30 minutes is a good tool to keep them from the overwhelmingness of days. If you focus on the whole day and what needs to be done it gets too scattered and you end up not doing anything at all. I tried it today and it worked pretty well. I wasn't perfect but I got my laundry started, ate breakfast, filled out a job application, and took a 30 minute walk. For me that is a pretty awesome day of accomplishment. I'm gonna try it again tomorrow and see how I do.